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The War to Be Her
07/23/18 | 1h 14m 44s | Rating: TV-PG
In the Taliban-controlled area of Waziristan in northwestern Pakistan, where sports for women are decried as un-Islamic and girls rarely leave their houses, young Maria Toorpakai defies the rules by disguising herself as a boy so she can play squash freely. As she becomes a rising star, however, her true identity is revealed, bringing constant death threats on her and her family.
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The War to Be Her
Beeping
Helicopter blades whirring
Gunfire
Explosion
Indistinct talking
-In Pakistan, where I come from, the tribal areas, girls are not allowed to play sports.
Man shouting in native language
Indistinct talking in native language
Dog barks in distance
Horn honks
-Women cannot walk without a shawl, cannot walk without a man beside her. She shouldn't go to school. She shouldn't be allowed TV, radio, newspaper, music. There are so many honor killings, so many acid attacks, so many rape happens. Women are so scared to say anything or show their emotions because they know they're going to get killed. Playing sports is an extreme act. I broke all the laws, and God help me in that. -And Pakistan's number-one- ranked women's squash player, Maria comes from South Waziristan in Pakistan's tribal region along the Afghan border. This is the home of the Taliban. Traveling and competing against girls from more liberal parts of the country, she dominated instantly.
Crowd cheering
-My name and pictures were everywhere. -
Speaking native language
-There's so many people that were so excited and happy. And then I got the threats, and everything went down. The Tehrik-i-Taliban Pakistan came after me.
Man speaking native language
-Terrorist attacks were everywhere. Waziristan is known for terrorism or a place that is like a hell or a place on fire. But it's my home. I can bring change to these people, but if something happens to me, it will take years for someone else to come out from that region. If Taliban catch me while playing squash, what will happen? We'll see what happens.
Ball bouncing
Indistinct talking in distance
P.A. beeps
-Attention, passengers. Due to construction, there's no subway service between Union and St. Andrew Subway Station. Continue further north towards Downsview Subway Station.
Ball bouncing
-Good. Put pressure on me. Good. If you get an easy shot, that's when you play when the ball is too tight to the wall, and you just lift it like this, but when the ball is here... get it!
Chuckles
Here we go. That's okay. Keep trying. Good. Since I moved to Canada, my squash improved a lot. Ah, yes! Yes! Yes! You're getting quick confidence, eh? That's the one. Playing squash, I'm happy. You know, everything is good. Let's do another one. -Second bounce in the neck. There. -After Taliban threatened me, I was so disturbed. I couldn't train at all in Pakistan. All I'm doing, hitting by the wall in my bedroom, and I started sending e-mails, lot of e-mails every day. Finally, I got an e-mail from Jonathon Power, was a former world champion. He completely changed the world of squash because he had such a deceptive style. -Drag and skip, so drag the back foot. Keep low. Here we go. Ready? Go. Go, go, go. Four! Good get. -When I met Maria, it was incredibly random. I got this random e-mail from this girl from Waziristan, which I was kind of like, "Wow, the hell is a girl from Waziristan even playing squash for? How is that possible?"
Laughter, shouting
-I wanted to play outside with boys, running around freely. I didn't want to sit at one place for hours and hours and playing with dolls at home.
Indistinct talking
-So I took all my clothes outside -- my frocks, my girly dresses. I took them all outside and burned them. When I was 4, I chose and I decided, and I burned my clothes and everything, and then my dad says, "Okay." He supported me. I was always found, like, bruised and bleeding -- my knees, my arms. I was not like girls, like, who are beauty-conscious, you know? And my dad says, "Oh, this is my son, and I want him to play some sports." He called me Genghis Khan. With that name, I started walking around, and I could stay longer outside.
All shouting
-I always thought, from inside, "I'm a boy like them," right? So maybe that's why I was more... I never thought, "I'm a girl," that way. Yeah, and it became, like, very natural to me. When I was 12, all of a sudden, people started shouting that, "There's a girl, a girl, a girl," you know, staring at me very differently. They push you. They want to touch you. You know, they think of you like a girl, right? And it was so... disrespectful. So my dad thought, "Poor girl. What's gonna happen with her?" I thought, "I'm perfect."
Chuckles
I always thought like that. -Maria Toorpakay.
Applause
-I found it unbelievable that Maria has gotten this far and actually was a legitimately good squash player. She came third in the World Juniors. But she was not able to realize her dreams in Pakistan. Maria's goal of becoming World Champion is something that you can't take away from her. No matter what she was going through, there was no way that she was going to, you know, pack it all up and go home and sit in her room in Pakistan and wait. This is what Maria was born to do, and she knows that. That's much better. You've found the rhythm now. -I'm so far away. But, you know, I live in peace here. Summers are beautiful, but winter... I wanted to experience snow, but it's a lot of snow.
Laughs
It's very cold. Here, I have few friends. I miss my family. Zika, please move. Here I am with all my medals. This is President Musharraf after we won silver medal and bronze medal in South Asian games. Oh, here, you see? This is the first trophy that I got. It was such a beautiful trophy. It was so beautiful. Yeah. And I had a buzz cut. They didn't know that I'm a girl -- like, not at all. And I had that confidence, too. You can still hear -- You can see here, right? My face was always, like, very serious. I would always walk with angry face, you know, and being like... And then I would sit like this, right? And I would like, "Yeah. Okay. Why not?" Like, you know?
Chuckles
When I was 16, I grow my hair. I start looking more, like, feminine, more girly, and then I got the threats from Taliban. I couldn't see them, that, you know -- How are they going to come? Where are they going to come from? What are they going to do to us? And that depression actually took me to think, like, "Should I have a gun, or should I have a cyanide pill?" Like, I don't care. Well, I do care. Like, I don't want my --
Inhales deeply
Oh, God.
Sighs deeply
Yeah, I didn't want it to bring any kind of... create any trouble for my family because I love them so much and for my dad. Like, I love them so much, and he has done so much for us, and... So I had to stop playing squash then. That was the time only.
Sniffles
Ringing
-I am going to go back, as I always said, that, you know, there was a time, and I was young, and I was... When people came to know that I'm a girl, and nobody was respecting me, but I had to snatch my respect from them. That's what I'm going to do. Now I'm an athlete. And now if they're not giving any respect to athletes, I'm going to snatch that respect now. I want to feel free while playing in Pakistan. -
Speaking native language
Indistinct talking
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Singing in native language
Both laugh
-My dad is just like a friend to us.
Laughs
We can share anything with him. -I decided to organize a squash tournament for the Bannu area, which is very close town to Waziristan. Everyone knows it's dangerous. But dad is about adventures like that. I'm just like my dad in that sense. -There will be different people, right? -Sometimes, you meet a beggar, sometimes, a good-looking person, Sometimes, completely insane or drug addict, but they're not sometimes. They're all informers. They call, and then they say, "Oh, this is the car number. It's coming this way, and these are the people in it." -The more you go towards the tribal regions, the more conservative it's going to be. The tribal areas need a lot of attention. These Taliban groups or militants or rebels, all they want, money. All they want, power. Nothing else. They don't care about religion. They do not care about humanity.
Indistinct talking
-When these kids will grow up without education, without any hope of life, they will become militants. They will become Taliban... the Taliban who do not... who cannot differentiate between the real Islam and the Islam that they follow. You would see bombing every day everywhere. It does happen, but still, there are people living here. The life is going on there. The people are doing business. People live here. Every day, kids try to go to schools. Life goes on.
Music plays indistinctly
-Huh? -Boys of North Waziristan -- They have a lot of potential, and they're strong. We should show them the right path, and we should introduce more and more sports to them, and that's why it's my vision to introduce a squash clinic with them in Bannu.
Music continues indistinctly
-Around 50 kids are able to come to Bannu but no girls.
Song plays in native language
-In the cities, women can go to schools. There's even girls playing sports. But in tribal areas, it's considered vulgarity. Women are taught to obey. And if they don't, they're taught the consequences.
Indistinct talking
-We were instructed by the Inspector General of Police that, "You should be careful. Watch your movement. Don't go to tribal areas." But for the last 26, 27 years, my dad has been teaching kids in the schools, in the villages, even the people who were in the tribal areas. -He always preached nonviolence. He never stopped his mission. We just keep working hard and trying to find ways how we can help people, how we can reach them and how we can talk to them.
Indistinct talking in distance
Laughter
Horns blare
Ball bouncing
Indistinct talking in distance
-When the British people came to Pakistan, the officers, they brought cricket, and they brought squash with them. Squash -- It's the second-biggest sport in Pakistan. So many champions came out, you know? There was Hashim Khan. He's considered as the Father of Squash. Jahangir Khan, Jansher Khan, like, 10-times World Champion, and Jahangir Khan is, like, one of the greatest, greatest athlete. He won 500 matches in a row. It's impossible. Squash players are loved in Pakistan.
Indistinct talking
When you win a tournament, Pakistani squash players still get a lot of attention. Pakistani squash teams going to Korea for Asian Games, and everyone is praying for us. Everyone is expecting a win from us. This is a way that I think that I can reach more and more girls. You see this is the beauty of sport, that it connects the whole world in a very positive way.
Little Mix's "Salute" plays
- Ladies all across the world Listen up, we're looking for recruits If you with me, let me see your hands Stand up and salute Get your killer heels, sneakers, pumps Or lace up your boots Representing all the women, salute, salute Ladies all across the world Listen up, we're looking for recruits If you with me, le t me see your hands Stand up and salute Get your killer heels, sneakers, pumps Or lace up your boots Representing all the women, sa lute, salute Attention Salute Attention, huh! Representing all the women, salute, salute
Applause
-Pakistan versus China -- best of five games -Come on, Maria! Fight! Go, Maria!
Applause
1. Pakistan
0. -Come on, Maria, Maria!
Applause
1. Pakistan
-13, 11, one ball. -Come on, Maria!
Applause
1. Pakistan
-Match ball.
Crowd cheers
1. Pakistan
-Pakistan. -I love squash. It's a psychological game. When you come nervous, you bring fear to the court, you lose. -Pakistan versus Hong Kong. -Come on, Maria! Come on! -The movement should be rhythmic. You should be calm. You should be in flow. Sometimes, you know, I get a lot of pressure in a way because I'm performing for my country. -Eight, loss. -When something goes wrong, it's indirectly affecting the rest of the women in Pakistan.
Screams
1. Pakistan
Applause
1. Pakistan
Winner
Hong Kong.
Applause
Winner
Squash is my love, right? Like, I love squash, and I will never lose the hope. The only way to not feel weaker is to work harder. I will become champion. I have no doubt in that.
Cattle moo
Children shout indistinctly
Winner
I'm lucky that I have a very supportive family. I live for them. That's my whole universe. Pakistan has an attached borders with China, with India, with Afghanistan, with Iran, and further towards the Afghanistan side, it's a huge tribal belt. The army's doing operation against the militants, and there are also drone attacks by U.S. Because of this War Against Terror, more than a million people of North Waziristan, of my homeland, have become displaced and are living in camps.
Indistinct talking
Winner
My sister is in politics. Recently, she's doing a lot for the internally displaced people of Waziristan.
Indistinct talking
Winner
She is a wonderful sister. She taught me a lot. -I pray that this military operation brings lasting peace to Pakistan, but, obviously, you have to find a long-lasting solution to the problem. It's not always about military solution. -She's a huge example for the women of Waziristan, the tribal women, or especially Pashtun women, and she's the youngest politician in Pakistan.
Indistinct cheering
Winner
-Today, in our villages and in Pashtuns, many people are naming their children, their daughters, after me and Maria. And sometimes, it's Ayesha Gulalai. Sometimes is Ayesha Toorpakay. It's a mixture of both names, so I guess they want both a politician and both a sportswoman in their daughters. And Maria -- It's her passion to become World Champion, and she has won international tournaments, so this, itself, is a very big change, and Maria -- she's very committed. -
Speaking in native language
Laughter
Winner
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Singing in native language
Winner
-Now you see there are lots of girls coming up from Pashtun society who wants to play sports and especially squash. They kill them, right, who are trying to get education or trying to do sports like Bushra is very upcoming, like, star squash player. She wants to become World Champion. She wants to go on that side, too.
Conversing in native language
Winner
-Okay, she is saying that, "I follow Maria Toorpakay when I saw her pictures, especially in newspapers, her winning pictures, winning games. She selected Maria Toorpakay because 'I will achieve that position also. I will follow her,'" and she is saying that, "I will, like, continue that game. It's my dream, especially on behalf of Maria Toorpakay." -
Singing in native language
Winner
Indistinct talking
Winner
-We grew up very unique. There's no gender discrimination. We get positions with our behavior, with our hard work. Ayesha is number one. Yohan is the smartest, so he has become favorite to my dad, so Aya and Adham are second. I have these two amazing twin brothers, my younger brothers. They are the happiness of the family. Older brother is... He looks after everyone. He is the strength of the family. So Sangreen, Babrak and Taimur are at the third position. And my mom is... She's definitely very worried about all of us, you know? That's why she has a little bit of blood pressure. -
Chuckles
Winner
-Finished. -My mom -- She was a teacher, and now she's a principal.
Indistinct talking
Winner
My mom, her school is in tribal region. You can see that it has been bombed three times.
Indistinct talking
Winner
It's an extreme risk for her, especially because she's not just a teacher, but she's the mother of two well-known daughters, you know?
Talking continues
Both laugh
Chuckles
Winner
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Laughs
Winner
Mm!
Both laugh
Winner
Bye, bye, bluebird Bye, bye, bluebird You should have to I'm happy just to sing along Toot, toot, toot, toot, toot, toot, toot - Doo-doo-doo, doo-doo Doo-doo-doo-doo, doo-doo, Doo-doo-doo, doo-doo, Bye, bye, bluebird Bye, bye, bluebird Bye, bye, bluebird Bye, bye, bluebird -My dad wanted to become an actor. He wanted to become a model. He was in jeans with hippies, and he would start watching English movies. He was the rebel in the family. My parents -- They were different, totally different. My dad, after marriage, he educated my mom, and he was telling people about human rights, women rights. So he says, "Yes, I come from very well-known family in Waziristan. But the thing was that it was all about males. When I was passing new ideas to them and I tried to educate my wife and then my daughter, and they thought that I'm crazy, insane." Actually... So he escaped the jail, and he jumped off the huge, tall wall, and he broke his jaw, and he broke his leg, and he was limping, and he came to his house, and he was able to escape my mom from there. For the sake of our rights, he kept moving us from area to area in South Waziristan, North Waziristan, different towns, hiding us. People discouraged him, threatened him, but he never stopped his mission. He educated my sister. My dad worked really, really hard with her. My dad felt that she has this ability. She can be a good debater. It's in all of us. We want to excel. That's how we were taught.
Crowd cheering
Indistinct announcements
Winner
I'm very nervous about my sister because when you become famous, Taliban definitely target those people. Our ex Prime Minister, Benazir Bhutto, was assassinated.
All screaming
Police sirens wailing
Winner
My older brother is her protection. We cannot hire a driver, or we cannot rely on security guards, because sometimes your own security guard will take money and will kill you. -
Groans
Winner
Laughter
Winner
Car doors open, close
Indistinct talking in distance
Indistinct talking
Telephone ringing
Winner
-Hello?
Thunder rumbles
Dogs bark in distance
Cellphone rings
Police siren chirps
Police siren wails
Siren continues
Winner
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Speaking in native language
Winner
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Singing in native language
Winner
-My parents, they worry, but they don't want to live with fear, with worry too much. We just still celebrate our family time, live just like normal people. Once in awhile, it comes in our brain that when we got the threats, you know, and part of my soul, I would say, becomes paralyzed. Because my dad -- he is a very strong man, and he doesn't like someone threatening him -- when he got these threats, he told this guy, the Taliban guy, that, "I'm from the same tribe. I'm Wazir tribe. And if you people think that I will be scared of you, I'll follow you, and I will do the same thing if you harm my family." He's not going to escape from them. That's all I know. -
Singing in native language
Winner
-Thank you, sir. Thank you.
Conversing in native language
TV plays indistinctly
Winner
-When we first got these threats, we told the IGP police to trace this number and confirm who are these people, and they called us, and they told us that this is a genuine threat, and we have to be very careful. There's no guarantee of life, and whatever happens, you know, they said that, "We will try our best, what we can do, but you guys should be very careful and stay inside Islamabad and control your movement."
Police siren chirps
Horn honks
Indistinct talking
Camera shutters click
Winner
-I like to welcome all the players from all over the world. We wish you best of luck.
Applause
Winner
-I know, the higher we go, the higher we achieve, the more the risk is going to be. I am in the spotlight, and that is scary for me. -Thank you. -I want to win. I want to play good. I am just praying that God help us, and inshallah will be fine. -My dad is like, "Don't be scared. Come on. You are the number one. Do it. You're the best. Do it. Go for it. Just keep taking risks." I want to tell girls fear is taught, that you are born free, and you are born brave. I want to show them that this is what you are worthy of.
Indistinct talking
Applause
Winner
-Pakistan versus Hong Kong. -Come on, Maria. -Best of five games. Lob one. -Come on, Maria.
Crowd shouting
Winner
-Point to Hong Kong. -Come on, Maria! -Come on, Maria! Pakistan. -Come on! -Pakistan versus Egypt. Best of five games. Lob one. -Come on, Maria!
Crowd cheers
Winner
-Go, Maria.
Crowd cheering
Winner
Pakistan.
Crowd cheering
Winner
Pakistan versus Malaysia. Best of five games. Lob one.
Crowd cheers
Winner
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Speaking native language
Crowd cheering
Winner
-Match ball.
Crowd cheers
Winner
Pakistan.
Indistinct P.A. announcement
Winner
--Pakistan versus South Africa. Best of five games. Lob one.
Applause
Winner
-Go, Maria!
Applause
Winner
-Oh, Maria! Yes, Maria! Come on! Come on, Maria! -Ah! Come on! -Maria! -Eleven, nine.
Pakistan
one game.
South Africa
love.
Crowd cheers
South Africa
-Eleven, seven. -Come on!
Pakistan
two game.
South Africa
love. -Eleven, six.
Pakistan
two games.
South Africa
one game. -Go, Maria! Come on!
Crowd cheers
South Africa
-12, 10.
Pakistan
two games.
South Africa
two games.
Crowd cheering
South Africa
-Yeah! -Come on, Maria! Last point here! Come on! Woo! -Come on, Maria! Come on.
Indistinct shouting
South Africa
-Come on, Maria! -
Shouts
Point
South Africa. -Come on, Maria. Relax! Get it back, Maria. Get it back.
Crowd cheers
Point
-Come on! -Match ball. -Woo! Come on, Maria! -Yes!
Crowd cheers
Point
-Champion!
Chuckles
Point
Ms. Maria Toorpakay.
Cheers and applause
Point
From Pakistan.
Crowd cheers
Point
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Speaking native language
Point
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Speaking native language
Crowd cheers
Point
-Congratulations. You just won a fabulous tournament. Is it true that you used to be disguised as a boy when younger? -Yeah. I grew up like a tomboy. -Okay. -And, you know, I used to dress up like my brother, and I come from South Waziristan. -You know, I come home from Wazir tribe, so winning this tournament in Pakistan, for me, is a... I feel like I gave a beautiful gift to my country, Pakistan, and... -Absolutely. -...I feel like I have to win this for Pakistan.
Crowd cheers
Indistinct talking in distance
Point
For me, you know, I'm a strong and more, like, a masculine personality, and... Yeah, I don't feel very... I don't know how to say it. I'm not a guy, but I'm not a girl mentally, like psychologically. It's a very... I don't know where to go at the moment, like, you know? Where do I fit in? And I have no idea. I have no idea, you know? I asked Ayesha, too, And she was like, "You will be fine. Take your time." And I said, "Okay," And she said, "Pray," and I'll find a spiritual side and, you know, "Fine. You'll be fine. Take your time," and it's... Lots of people are like that. Don't worry." And so I feel so lucky, and I feel so happy that I have experienced a life that is... experienced being like a boy and now like a girl. It's beautiful. Whatever I am to them, squash player, I've traveled. I'm very confident, and I feel, like, a strength. I can become whatever I want. If I can be an international squash player, so they can be. Squash gave me a whole different life because I had no other way out.
Crowd cheering
Point
Yes, I can bring change to the mind-set, to the existing mentality and show them that we are living in a world. They have to come out of their region. They have to explore the world. They have to look beyond imagination. We are very strong. We are very intelligent. If you think big, you do bigger, and you have to work hard for that. Life comes once, and people die even on bed or even in accident. If it's written that way, so let it be. Once you cross that line that you are not afraid of death and you're so close, you feel so close to Allah, to God, all you want to keep doing good after good, good after good. Our bravery is in educating women, respecting women, empowering women. No one is a slave of anyone on this Earth. Everyone is free. You're born free, and you have to live free.
Santigold's "Disparate Youth" plays
Point
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