"B":
For a while, at the beginning of my transition, I was very public about my identity, in large part because I had to be, because I didn't pass. Anybody who saw me thought that I was a girl dressing in boy clothes, and so I had to tell people that I was actually trans and needed them to refer to me as he. But since I've been able to start passing as cisgender, yes, since I've been able to start passing as male, I've had to be really careful about who I choose to tell that I'm trans. And the ability to choose who to tell is something that I feel is really important to me. I work in the public. I work at a public library. I work in retail. I'm a student at a university. I encounter a lot of different people whose opinions and biases I don't know, and I am not interested in having conversations about my trans identity when I'm trying to work or go to school. That's something that I've encountered in the past, where as soon as people know that you're trans, they take it as an invitation to start asking personal questions, and I don't like having to navigate that situation.